You have already witnessed it several times in bed this week. But you can’t seem to bring it up.
Feelings of sympathy cloud your mind as you caress your partner’s back and tell him, “it’s okay, there’s always next time. It’s not a big issue.”
However, the problem never really goes away. Just the opposite, it’s now starting to drive you both away from each other.
The thing is, you haven’t faced the problem nor defined it.
It’s time to say the problem out loud: Premature Ejaculation.
Many men already feel immense pressure when it’s their first time performing in bed. Coupled with underlying issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, and hormonal problems, and you’ll get a depressing ball of annoyance and angst staring at you in bed.
Your lovemaking lasts less than a minute, and both of you keep staring at the ceiling absentmindedly, afraid to talk about “it.”
Premature ejaculation should not be treated as a taboo subject. It can have drastic consequences on your relationship if ignored.
While taking the pill may seem an easy and quick choice, there are several premature ejaculation treatments. you can try it with your partner at home. These treatments are said to recondition your partner’s sexual response so that stimulation doesn’t accelerate the desire to orgasm.
The main goal is to maintain a slow and steady pace for arousal. Two of such treatments commonly known are “the stop-start” and “the squeeze-tease.”
You can find the exact way these methods are done either by searching online or by reading books. Though more detailed explanations and further inquiries about premature ejaculation triggers, you might feel that it’s best to see a sex therapist instead.
Communication is vital for any relationship to prosper. Your partner might be reluctant to open up a conversation about his premature ejaculation. So instead of constantly brushing it off and waiting for him to approach you, why don’t you hold his hand and start talking about it yourself.
Sure, you might even be afraid to talk about your partner’s underperformance out of fear of losing them. But if you don’t take a step towards solving his issue together, you might lose him.
It’s also crucial not to demean him or outwardly embarrass him blatantly. So, avoid phrases like:
“Lol, less than a minute today, new record?”
“What is wrong with you?”
“That was the worst sex I have ever had!”
“Are you cheating on me?”
“Don’t you love me anymore?”
Instead, choose phrases like:
“Babe, I understand what you’re going through; want to talk?”
“You can tell me how you’re feeling, honey. You know I’m here for you.”
“I love you and don’t want to see you upset all the time. Want to see a professional together?”
Lastly, keep in mind that while holistic treatments might work initially, if the problem persists, consider talking to a medical professional for better results. Specialists in sexual health problems are experienced in understanding the underlying causes and offering targeted premature ejaculation treatment options. Remember, you’re not the only one who’s feeling upset; after all, it takes two to tango!
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