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How to Get Better at Sex and Masturbation

Peter  |  Feb 15 2021

How to Get Better at Sex and Masturbation

Most humans are naturally sexual beings, so first, don’t be ashamed of your needs. Once you get that out of the way, you can start considering how you can make the wonderful acts of masturbation and sex better for you and your partner. If you don’t really have a lot of experience in those fields, here are a few tips to try out next time you’re feeling naughty. 

Set the mood

setting the right mood

A quickie (no matter if we’re talking about sex or masturbation) is sometimes all we need to relieve stress and sexual tension, but that’s not all there is to it. You can set yourself up for some quality time and plan your sexual encounters or the alone time a little better. To make sex and masturbation more pleasurable, you can turn down the lights, play some music or an erotic video, slowly touch yourself or your partner, and set the mood with teasing. 

Switch it up

Many people often stick to the same routine while having sex or masturbating. But, you can be an exemption and add some interest to your favorite naughty activities. For instance, if you’re always standing when masturbating, try switching it up by leaning against the wall and working your hips. Or, if you’re always lying down when having sex, try sitting up or standing up. Different positions and different strokes offer different sensations which often translates to more satisfaction and fun. 

Spice it up with toys

Today, the sex toy industry is booming and really trying to satisfy its customers with a wide variety of toys for people with penises, people with vaginas, and couples. Just check out websites like practical Shoppster and you can easily find a bunch of toys and sexy accessories that can add loads of fun to both solo and partnered sessions. And don’t worry about privacy—the website is taking special care of your data. Some of the common sex toy options include dildos, vibrators, strap-ons, fleshlights, prostate stimulators, and anal toys. All of these can be used during solo play, endurance exercises, or sex so you can ramp up your orgasms and be a happy camper. 

Explore your bodies

explore your body

Are you dreaming of having or giving a full-body climax? Then you have to play with erogenous zones. Areas like ears, neck, mouth, lips, nipples, and others, can multiply your pleasure by many times and shoot sparks of pleasure all over your body. Experiment with erogenous zones by sucking, rubbing, squeezing, and pinching during a particularly interesting solo or sex session. Once you realize what feels good to you or your partner, you will discover a whole new world of pleasure. 

Don’t just focus on one spot

There’s more to masturbation and sex than just penis and vagina. Show those other genitalia parts some loving as well. You or your partner can touch your testicles, taint, or shaft if you have a penis, or you can concentrate on vaginal lips or anus if you have a vagina. These often-neglected parts have almost as many nerve endings as the main players, so make sure to include them in your play to get to that “Big O”. 

Take your time

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Sex and masturbation are not a race (unless you want them to be). Feel free to take your time, slow down and really enjoy your or your partner’s body. Experiment with speed, positions, toys, and strokes. And make sure to be present in mind, otherwise, your orgasms will never reach their full potential. 

Try edging

If you’re not a stranger to taking things slow, you can prolong your play date even more with edging. Try this start-and-stop method while having sex or masturbating to achieve better orgasm control, draw out the pleasure, and have more explosive orgasms. Try it out by playing with yourself or having sex until you’re close to orgasm and then stop completely. Slowly get back into the rhythm until you’re ready to finish again and stop—repeat this process as much as you like or can endure. 

As long as you’re open to new things, you will get to constantly improve your solo play or sessions with a partner. Keep in mind that both sex and masturbation are healthy and natural, so enjoy it as much as you can.

Cover photo by Pexels 


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