Turn on the news practically anywhere in the world and the message always seems to be predominantly dire: the COVID-19 epidemic continues to ravage countries around the world, the global economy seems to be teetering on the verge of collapse, millions of jobs have been lost, many criminally inept leaders making the dire situation even worse, and during all this insanity the only thing most of us can, and should, do is stay home.
Then there are the other problems: the ones that while maybe not as news-worthy as those above can still be just as damaging. Things like the serious emotional impact this continuing high level of stress have been causing, leading to dramatic increases in anxiety, depression, and even cases of domestic violence--all while health and emergency services are stretched to the breaking point.
But do me a favor. Don’t worry, it’s not something difficult or challenging to do. In fact, you’ve done it several times while reading this article. Ready? It’s to take a breath. Not a quick shallow one but rather a slow, deep one. Done? Now do another. And another.
And while you are taking your calming breaths repeat after me: we’ll get through this.
I know that might sound like a pat answer but it’s nevertheless the truth. While we may have our faults, and we are certainly seeing a lot of that side of ourselves during the current situation, we human beings still remain a particularly resilient species.
We’ve even survived worse epidemics, and that was back before we had the Internet. Now, with it, we can stay informed, entertained, and even some of us can work remotely via it.
But that’s just technology, for we have another tool that can help us make it through COVID-19 and out the other side as best we can. No, it’s not breathing, though that can always help out when we’re getting particularly stressed.
Rather, it’s focusing on remaining optimistic, and a great way to do that is by using this time to practice a special breed of that: sexual optimism.
Even though it frequently may not be easy to do, what with the current state of the world and all the stress around it making it hard to focus on anything, even sex, there’s a lot that can be gained by putting aside time for pleasure.
We’ve known for a long time that having an active sex life is a great way to boost a person’s physical and emotional health. In fact, it’s particularly been recommended as a stress reliever by kicking up those lovely endorphins and serotonin levels.
More than that, it can be a marvelous distraction from worrying about … well, everything right now. With a partner or not, putting aside time for sexual play might be just the thing to put a much-needed smile on your face.
But what about optimism and sex? Sex, more times than not, is a positive act: it is exciting to perform and at the end, there’s usually a great, and sometimes messy, pay off.
It’s also a great way to stay connected with those you love by creating tender and/or passionate connections with them. Feeling the world is falling apart just outside your door? Then set aside a nice afternoon or evening to spent quality sex time with one another.
It can also be something special to look forward to. Alone or with a partner, or partners as the case may be, make erotic activities a ritual: something that can be enjoyed being put together as it is when it’s underway. It can be anything from putting together a thunderingly-powerful BDSM scene to put having a sensual meal before you begin. It’s all up to you but the point is that it should be fun.
This is also a great time to explore. Back to the Internet: you name it and it’s out there--and, yes, I’m talking about sex. Interested in this, that, or the other thing? Then give yourself a nice time to do some investigation. Check out videos, take online sexed classes, read tons of hot, steamy erotica, learn from articles and how-to books … as with creating your sexual playtime what and how you do it is up to you.
It’s all about playing: taking the time to treat yourself with care, kindness, and love by allowing yourself to be wild, experimental, or even just silly--and by doing so maybe, just maybe, you’ll begin to look at these days under lockdown not as when you can’t do something but rather as an opportunity to do the things you couldn’t do before.
Back to trying new things for a moment, one of the huge benefits to living in the future, i.e. 2020, is we have all kinds of exciting new sexual devices and playthings just waiting to be erotically sampled for your possible pleasure.
Just the top of my head, we have smart sextoys that can be connected together so long-distance lovers can pleasure themselves and each other, totally immersive virtual reality erotic entertainment options, online sex games and new ways to hook up with potential digital playmates, and even ultra-lifelike sex robots to try out.
Curious? Good! Then you have no excuse not to have a grand time checking these and other cool new erotic pleasures that are out there.
Even though it may not seem like it, yes, we will get through this. That’s an undeniable fact of life. It may get worse, it may get better, but one day and maybe sooner than you think we’ll be able to leave the COVID-19 epidemic behind us
But until that day actually does arrive, do try and stay as positive as you can and use this time not to fret and worry but rather as an opportunity to learn, grow as a human being, and, whenever possible, have all kinds of sexual fun.
Do that and when all this is but a memory you could look back on it as instead of dark times full of fear and anxiety but rather when you discovered new levels of pleasure, desire, excitement, as well as boundless optimism for the future.
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