Your relationship is a uniquely crafted multi-functioning entity that needs the right fuel in the form of effective communication to ensure longevity, stability, and a fulfilling experience. There is a direct connection between the effort you put in and the outcome that affects your partner, which in turn defines the course of the relationship between you two in a very peculiar manner. Although, even in the year 2020, for a visibly happy couple it is quite a controversial idea to openly express the need for “fulfillment” in a long-term relationship, as most men and women hate to discuss the elephant in the room without any provocation.
So what makes a relationship fulfilling? Different people from different age groups would have very vivid opinions on this subject, but a common ideology suggests that most people crave absolute contentment at emotional, physical, and mental levels. We suggest some interesting ways to keep your relationship honest and meaningful, without the added pressure of complications and confusion.
Open two-way communication is key to a fulfilling relationship. The foundation needs to be built with trust and judgment-free conversations. It takes a lot of time and patience to learn the fine details, mood swings, and predictable patterns about your partner. Once you understand your partner well, you shouldn’t think twice about discussing anything under the sun with him or her. If you put across your needs and desires at the time and in the right way, there is no way that he/she will overlook you or judge you for saying it. Be polite and accepting while you communicate, don’t try to over-burden your partner with a flurry of demands. Even when you are upset or confused, give them a fair chance to explain and listen to their reasoning before you jump to conclusions.
It is important to talk about physical and mental compatibility once you know about the likes and dislikes of your partner. While discussing sexual intimacy, be clear about your upper limits and convenience in using contraception, lubes, sex toys, or any other modern ways in the bedroom. An open chat about comfort level and readiness for experimentation will eliminate the chauvinism and egoistical issues. Your goals and hobbies do not have to match every time, but your life philosophies and principles need to be similar at some level – it would save you from a lot of trouble in the future.
In a patriarchal society, where a man is considered strong physically, psychologically, and expected to be a provider for everything, women get treated as fragile, submissive, and objects of desire. This is the story all along, and it is overburdening for men and undermining for girls. Whereas men too feel emotionally pressured and women can also double up as strong support in many ways, so keep the expectations real and gender-free. The idea is to work as a whole but keeping the individuality intact, try to keep it practical and easy-breezy without any unrealistic expectations.
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