I am going to take an educated guess, that, because you landed on this page, you may have an interest in trying out some kinky bondage play with your partner, but don’t necessarily know where to start?
Perhaps you have had some erotic fantasies about being tied, or tying up your partner? Maybe the idea of being naughty and getting spanked sends shivers of delight throughout your body? You may have even been one of the gazillions of readers who indulged their dominant or submissive fantasies by reading 50 Shades of Grey or watching one of the films? Okay, so you binged-watched all three of the films and are now hoping to explore some of those hot sex scenes in your own Red Room of Passion.
Well, that’s okay, you have come to the perfect place to begin!
Whatever stage you are at in your beginning explorations of kink, bondage, or BDSM, we’ve got you covered with these top 10 Bondage Ideas for Beginners.
There are lots of reasons why an individual may want to explore kink, BDSM, and bondage with their partner.
These include:
Dr. Ava Cadell notes in her Loveology University course on Power Play, that, “One of the most important aspects of BDSM is that it be Safe, Sane & Consensual.”
What does Safe, Sane and Consensual actually mean?
Safe means that you play safe with safe equipment and tools so both parties do not get injured. It means discussing limits and boundaries and health concerns before play. It means talking about any emotional issues that may arise.
Sane means knowing the difference between fantasy and reality and not being under the influence of mind-altering drugs or alcohol.
Consensual means both parties consent to play together during a specific scenario and time-frame. Consent involves the negotiation of the types of activities that will take place during a scene, and again discussing limits, boundaries, and safewords during play. It also means the right to say no, stop, or “red” during play if you change your mind, or feel that play has become uncomfortable, unsafe, or painful.
These “rules” are basic BDSM etiquette and apply to any type of kinky play, even if you are just getting started.
Now that we have the basic rules in place, bondage or kinky play can involve any type of consenting fantasy between adults.
First, you need to discuss with your partner the types of play you may like to explore. This happens way before you bring out the whips and chains, outside of the bedroom. You can both fill out a BDSM checklist to see what kinds of kinks you’d both like to try, and then create a “scene” around those ideas.
DO YOU WANT TO EXPLORE BONDAGE, DOMINANCE, AND SUBMISSION? WOULD YOU LIKE TO TRY OUT PAIN AND PLEASURE, OR INTENSE PHYSICAL SENSATIONS? OR, IS KINK FOR YOU MORE OF A PSYCHOLOGICAL HIGH, EXPLORING YOUR BOUNDARIES AND FEARS? WHO WITH BE THE TOP (DOER) AND WHO WILL BE BOTTOM (RECEIVER)? WHAT SAFE WORD WILL YOU USE TO STOP PLAY IF NEEDED?
Once you have these basics in place, let your imagination go wild and have fun exploring different types of play, fantasies, and role-playing together.
You can explore bondage and kinky play without bondage toys, just by using household items called pervertible.
However, I find it a lot more fun having a few basic bondage toys on hand to make bondage a bit easier, more exciting, and safer as well.
So, here are our 10 Bondage Ideas for Beginners, as well as toys you can use to enhance your kinky play.
Blindfolds are a staple of BDSM play. They can pretty well go with any type of scenario to enhance your sensations including touch, smell, sounds, and taste, as they block your most dominant sense: sight. This helps to heighten play with a bit of mystery, suspense, and even an element of danger while being very safe and easy to use for beginners.
The Soft Blindfold is super comfortable and effectively removes their sense of sight to heighten all their other senses.
Sensation play awakens the senses, usually via touch. This is often a mild type of play that can include tickling, hot and cold play, using fur or other materials on the skin, or even a prickly pinwheel for added excitement.
The Enchanted Feather Tickler is just the thing to seduce their senses and tickle or tease them to new heights of pleasure, with feathers on one end and a stingy little whip on the other.
Candle play is when you use specifically designed candles to drizzle over your partner’s body to provoke intense arousal. While it looks dangerous, if you are using warming massage candles it is actually a very sensual experience. There are, however, bondage type candles made of hotter wax that can sting and burn, so be careful what type of wax you use and always test on the inside of your wrist first, before pouring it onto your lover’s body.
Restraints are one of the usual suspects when it comes to BDSM play. Many people enjoy the idea of being restrained during sex, even if it is just your lover holding your wrists above your head and they f@ck you senseless. Restraints can be simple bondage rope, handcuffs, spreader bars, bed bondage restraints, over the door restraints, or even bondage swings or slings. Ball gags, chastity devices, and cock rings can also be a form of bondage as well.
The Locking Lace Collar and Leash Set is soft, comfortable yet controlling, for all your Master/slave sexy play scenes.
The nipples are erotically wired to our genitals, so having your nipples sucked, squeezed, pulled, and played with can be very pleasurable to many people, and may even cause a nipplegasm! There are lots of nipple and breast play toys and types of play including nipple and breast suckers, nipple clamps, and even breast bondage.
These easy-to-use nipple suckers will pump you up for maximum sensitivity and sensation.
Spanking is a hot type of fantasy that many people share. This could just be spanking with your hand or a leather glove, or by using an impact play toy such as a paddle, flogger, whip, crop, or even a hairbrush. For beginners, it is a good idea to start this type of play on your partner’s bottom, to begin with until you get good at it, as there are areas of the body you should never hit, such as the spine.
The Enchanted Paddle features velvety-soft faux suede on one side and faux fur on the other for a sensual warm-up.
The anus has lots of erotic nerve endings that create pleasure. So, butt play may be something you may want to explore with your partner. Anal play can have dominance and submissive element, and can also be a form of gender-bending as with pegging play and strap-ons. Many more men are becoming interested in exploring anal play on the receiving end as well, as another way to experience a prostate pleasure.
The New Comer’s Strap-on is the perfect kit for beginners featuring a slender dildo that is great for pegging.
The genital play could be explored during bondage using clamps, cock cages, or chastity devices. You could even do sensation play on your partner’s penis or vulva using warming massage candles, or sensation play lubricants that heat up, cool down, or tingle. Another type of genital play includes forced orgasm or orgasm denial. And, finally, soft genital spanking or flogging can also be used on their private parts, providing you are careful and know what you are doing.
Ben Wall Balls were featured in Fifty Shades and were one of the hottest selling products after the first book came out. Use these during other types of bondage play for forced orgasm or denial.
Role-playing is a fun way to explore various fantasies by dressing up and creating a scene. This allows you to become a bit more playful and creative in the bedroom, and to step out of your usual character to play a different type of role than who you usually are in your vanilla life. There are hundreds of ideas for role-playing including Doctor/patient, teacher/student, Boss/Secretary, Pirate/captive, Mistress/slave, or Owner/puppy. Use your imagination and create your own.
Finally, if you are not sure where to start, you may want to try out a bondage kit for beginners that has all the basic toys so you can get started right away exploring your wild erotic fantasies as they evolve. That way you are equipped with whatever scenario may strike your fancy.
The Sexy Submissive Kit is a great starter kit for couples, complete with ankle and wrist cuff restraints, a soft blindfold and an erotic feather tickler… everything you need to get started and bring your kinky fantasies to life.
Originally posted on Sexpert.com by Domina Doll
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