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THIS is what leads to a greater orgasm: Well for some

Chetana Chaudhury Jun 18

THIS is what leads to a greater orgasm: Well for some


What is an orgasm? 

An orgasm is a feeling of intense pleasure that happens during sexual activity. It's sometimes called coming or climaxing. Most people can have orgasms.


Orgasm is the peak of sexual arousal when all the muscles that were tightened during sexual arousal relax. Orgasms can be achieved during a variety of activities, including vaginal, anal or oral sex and masturbation. 

Fake orgasm

 A fake orgasm occurs when a person pretends to have an orgasm without actually experiencing one. It usually involves body movements, vocal sounds, acting motion release. 


Faking orgasm is common, and it’s more common when women think their partner might cheat on them, when they feel pressured to orgasm to satisfy their partner. Are men more likely to fake their orgasm if they think it’s natural for men to orgasm every time they have sex?

These questions are debatable. 


However, sex is not necessarily goal oriented. Have you ever wondered what leads to a greater orgasm? 

Masturbation is a healthy form of self care. 


Masturbation - Explore your genitals. It is a safe and natural way to discover what gets you hot and release built-up sexual tension. Curl your fingers up, roll aside, touch passionately where ever you feel the comfort. 

Feel. Take a deep breath.The tingly sensation along your skins, make this experience more fun and throbbing. 


Lying on your back may seem old-fashioned, but when it comes to stimulating, no position is better.


Set the mood - Think about turning down the lights, lighting some candles, and listening to relaxing music to get the mood going.


Add some lube - When you’re aroused, your body self-lubricates, making masturbation a much smoother and pleasurable experience.


Are you thinking? To run to buy a lube? 

It may go without saying, but you can turn yourself on by simply thinking about that hottie you met last week. What are the things you want to do to him? Let your mind wander!! 

Body's natural fluid is perfectly normal which keep the canal clean, moist and prevent infection. So why bother to spend money, if you have unlimited supply? In case, you feel uncomfortable keep a tube of lube on hand to increase your pleasure.


Take your time to enjoy all of the sensations you’re feeling throughout your body. Move your hips, try different strokes. 

Explore erogenous zones - can shoot sparks of pleasure throughout your body. Touch the sensitive parts by giving shower head or rubbing gently. Find a rhythm that makes you feel good.


Listening to sexy sounds can be just as — if not more — arousing as reading erotica or watching porn. Audio lets your imagination run wild as you lose yourself in the details of the story.


Are you up to discover your sexual and sensual side? Want to increase the sweat? 

Men this stands true for you too. Feel your bodies, fasten your horny gears. After all being horny is the new trend. The 'me time' is important for every individual. 


Tell your partner exactly what you’re doing and how. Give feedback like "Oh I love it here as opposed to there." "You look breathtaking today, can I see what you are wearing that lacy thing?" 

Get kinky with your demands. "I’m not going to touch you until I have an orgasm. Would you use this toy to get me started?"


Bring yourself to the “edge” of your orgasm, slow down, pause, and then start back up again. Try to do this two or three times before letting yourself go.

Mix up your oral game by physically moving around and trying new positions. Maybe by watching a sex tape together? Isn't all this sounds fun? 


Exercise, especially weight training, cardio, and abdominal-focused exercise like planks, crunches, sit up, can induce orgasms. The rush of blood also gives an after glow, elates a person and with time increase the degree of orgasms. 

Many people experience sexual arousal or orgasm during sleep and sexual dreams. Push your imagination bar, fill it with wild fantasies and top notch desires. Don't be afraid to ask for more foreplay.


 Annie Proulx in Brokeback Mountain book: She closed the eyes as her partner started to lightly stroke her body. He put his lips close to her ear and started setting the scene amidst slow whispering.
They were in a room with only a table. 
Her body responding exactly as he was going on  and on. The exploration on guard. 


He hadn’t even touched her genitals at all and she was wetter than she had been in a very long time.It may feel a bit weird at first, but once you get the hang of it, it can be deliciously rewarding.“She feels his hands on her breasts and her body shivers.

She takes a deep relaxing breath, as she fees his body close to her.”

Massage with lightly scented massage oil or a flirty spanking on the butt, foot massage etc. Consider adding a blindfold, feathers, satin, fur, candles, and more to your sexy drawer for a variety of fun ways to lavish in sensation play! 


Changing the intensity of touch, including stopping and restarting—could help lead to a delayed and more pleasurable orgasm. Being with a partner who they had a connection with or that knew their bodies.

Experiment. Explore. Learn. Understanding your body leads you one step closer to those magical multiple orgasms. 


Go exploring! After all life is short. ;) 


Every human body functions different, so their sensory parts act different too. The way on how to orgasm can vary from person to person. There should be no compulsion in attaining the same. 

Happiness prefers to live inside those who do not have preferences, because it never gets evicted there.


Although portrayals of orgasm in media, partners’ expectations for our orgasms, and our own interest in experiencing orgasm can make us feel like we need to have an orgasm every time we have sex, a happy sex life doesn’t necessarily mean having a mind-blowing orgasm during every sexual experience. 


Orgasm is just one of many important elements to sexual satisfaction.

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