Through early childhood development, the discovery of our genitals starts as early as 3 years old to identifying the pleasurable sensation we get from touching our genitals. Sadly, parents stop their children from touching themselves, which in turn leaves negative messaging. This impacts the future of masturbation as you grow into your teens, whereby you are programmed to identify it as a shameful, disgusting act regardless of how good it feels. It gets even worse when you are caught masturbating as a teen or young adult. The shame builds on and places a stigma on your self-pleasure.
In addition to the health benefits of masturbation, you develop a healthy relationship with your body.Masturbation is possible if you have a partner. Make sure you take some time for self-pleasure alone, or if you’re comfortable with your partner whilst they are watching, it can build the bond and give them a better understanding of what you enjoy. It can also enhance foreplay.
Ready to bust some myths about Masturbation? It does not contribute to any of the following illness:
More Myths about People who masturbate:
Masturbation is a normal activity that:
Masturbation is a recommended treatment for sexual dysfunction in women who are unable to orgasm. This allows them to explore what pleasures them. Men who suffer from premature ejaculation can practice self-control through masturbation.
The best way to enjoy masturbation is to prepare for it by ensuring you have privacy, and if you are sharing this experience with your partner, that just adds to the erotic experience. Be prepared to engage all of your five senses.
Hearing - soft romantic music or talk to each other with a very soft voice, share your thoughts, what you are feeling, what you are going to do next or what you want to be done.
Taste - use of flavored lube, edible flavored powder, chocolate-covered strawberries, oysters, or food with different taste sensations.
Smell - lightly scented candles, pheromones that we emit, or use of perfume
Sight - dress sexy, soft light, play dress up, or watch a romantic movie, use of a mirror positioned strategically.
Touch - close your eyes and relax and use silk, lace, or satin sheets or feathers to stroke and beads.
This is merely a guide. You know your body better and what feels good to you. Go ahead, explore and discover pleasure centers that are perhaps not even listed as an erogenous zone. Use different places and positions to masturbate, all as per your preference and what works to get you to orgasm.
Some warning signs that you may be a compulsive masturbator:
If you think you were masturbating too much, then it probably is too much. However, once a day is normal. Don’t isolate yourself from a lover to masturbate. It is a good time to identify if you are doing it to avoid dealing with something or someone. Another indication is if your masturbation is taking up most of your time. There are no physically harmful side effects of masturbation. The only impact can be on relationships and everyday life… so play on!
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