Every once in a while I wake up after a particularly erotic dream wondering this very thing.
Did I orgasm in my sleep?
I roll over, try to feel my body’s status…. Orgasmed or not orgasmed? Sometimes I feel myself down there, wondering if I’ll find it all juiced up or not. It can be very confusing.
So the last time this happened, I made a point of shaking myself out of the dream state, long enough to definitely decide that YES! I had orgasmed in my sleep. No touch required.
Aside from feeling kind of elated and even proud at the thought of what I could do in my sleep, I decided to research this topic. (Even Sex Educators have to research )
To my great joy, I found many articles online touting the fact that women can indeed orgasm in their sleep.
“During REM sleep you have increased blood flow to your erectile tissue—for women it’s in the whole clitoral complex," said Madeleine Castellanos, a psychiatrist and sex therapist practicing in New York City. "Your brain recognizes that you have more blood flow in those tissues, and it can lead to sexual arousal.”
“For women, the "proof" is internal. Back in 1983, researchers measured the physiological changes that occurred when a woman orgasmed in her sleep, and they found that her heart rate sped up from 50 to 100 beats per minute and her breathing from 12 to 22 breaths per minute—and she experienced a "very marked" increase in vaginal blood flow.” Taryn Hillin writes in Splinter News.
Our brain responds to thoughts almost as much as to physical stimulation. This idea has been proven in many areas of healing and somatic training, so why not around orgasm?
For myself this research answered a question I think I’ve always wondered about, whether there was an equivalent to ‘wet dreams’ for people with vaginas. Apparently there is!
You might be wondering if women who have trouble reaching climax in the waking state can still orgasm in their sleep? The research says yes, it’s possible.
This gives us much to think about regarding women and orgasms. So much exploration and research still to do. So let’s get busy ladies!
If you are curious about what your body can do, either dreaming or awake, working with a Somatic Sex Educator could be just the thing to help you explore your own body and its possibilities for pleasure.
I offer free 30 minute consults that you can book directly on my website.
In dreamy pleasure,
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