Sex is a vital part of many relationships. It’s good for our bodies and minds and it helps us relax and work away all the stress that’s been piling up within. That’s why intercourse should be an enjoyable and eventful activity for everyone in the relationship.
However, when it comes to introducing sex toys into the relationship a lot of people back down. So what if your partner wants to use a clit sucker or butt plug to reach orgasm more seamlessly? Why is that such a taboo?
Well, the main reason is that a lot of people feel like their performance isn’t adequate so they have to be replaced by sex toys. What they fail to realize is that sex toys are an addition to the overall experience, not a replacement. That being said, here are a few tips on how to introduce sex toys in your relationship.
Talking to your partner sounds easy enough but it’s actually not. People find it difficult to explain what they want or need so that it doesn’t sound awkward or diminishing for their partner. The more you talk about it the easier it gets. Of course, you won't get anywhere in one day.
You’ll have to have multiple conversations before both sides agree to at least give it a shot if nothing else. If your partner doesn’t want to play ball, keep at it until they realize it’s about enriching the bedroom experience and making it more enjoyable for everyone.
Once both of you agree to try different things in the bedroom, do it slowly. Use a toy that’s not intimidating and something that’s practical. Decide together.
When you both have the time of your life and when your partner realizes that introducing toys wasn’t such a bad idea after all, you can talk about using other sex toys or finding an alternative use for them.
There should be no stigma surrounding this topic, to begin with. If you want to make each other feel good, introducing sex toys shouldn’t be a problem.
Keep in mind that we all have busy and stressful lives. Don’t insist on conversations and don’t push your partner too far when you see that they’re having a bad day.
There’s no reason to rush the topic. Take one step at a time and you’ll eventually get there. Being too pushy might cause your partner to cave in and you’re back to square one. Even slow progress is better than no progress at all.
Sex toys are there to take your bedroom experience to a whole new level. The sooner you and your partner realize that, the better. You’ll see that there’s nothing wrong about helping your partner reach a climax even if you use a sex toy in the process.
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