Do these feelings get in the way of you connecting in meaningful and pleasurable ways with others? Do you wonder how you can be confident in bed with a new partner?
You know it’s normal to have these feelings sometimes, and you’d also like to feel more confident when it comes to feeling sexy. Feeling grounded in your own worth and attractiveness is a huge confidence booster. It translates out. Feeling sexy is NOT just for those people who stand within the very tiny range permitted by the beauty norms.
Everyone can feel sexier, if they practice. Everyone can become erotically confident.
Erotic confidence is a felt sense of certainty within your personal sexuality. The first step is in realizing that each of us deserves to express ourselves, our sexuality, and our desires. You know it is okay to want what you want, and like what you like, and more importantly have the skill set to express it.
While erotic confidence may lead to a certain swagger in your step, meaningful eye contact, winks and coy smiles, it’s important to know that erotic confidence isn’t just performative. It is sourced from being deeply connected with yourself, knowing how to give yourself permission to feel and like, and a general sense of “I’m okay”.
What Does Erotic Confidence Help With?
Today, due to social media dominance, many of us feel the need to have the ideal figure – dictated by beauty stereotypes – to feel erotically confident. And although it’s natural to feel so, it’s highly unwarranted and even misleading. Even someone who has one a classically centered appealing body may feel insecure and unsure in bed. It’s because the key to “how to feel more confident sexually” doesn’t lie in your external appearance, but in how you are feeling inwardly.
In moments when the “noise” in your mind is telling you that you are inadequate or unlovable, it helps to replace it with positive self-assuring messages about your body and the right to freely express yourself.
Here are some tips on how to feel more confident in bed when you feel insecure:
Short answer: you practice.
Don’t worry! Here at Wellcelium we are committed to helping you embody your full sexual potential and help you explore how to be confident in bed with a new partner.
Do I want to feel erotically confident?
If so, am I willing to practice being with myself in a different way inside?
Pay attention to your internal dialogue. Start to notice when you are criticizing yourself, and when you are complimenting yourself. Don’t judge, just notice!
Originally posted on Wellcelium.org