Women Come First: How to Help Her Reach Orgasm?

Achieving orgasm can be really hard for some women. Research shows that only 35% of women can reach an orgasm from penetration alone. Additionally, 10 to 15% of them can never climax under any circumstances. So, as you can see, the vast majority of women require additional stimulation from hands, tongue, or sex toys.

If your partner is among that 50% of women that need extra help from you to reach an orgasm, you may want to know some of the best techniques and toys to make it faster and more intense than before. Here, you will find some tips on how to give your woman the best orgasm you can!

Use Sex Toys

Sex toys can be the best way to give an orgasm to even the most demanding women. You can find them in many shapes, sizes, materials, and colors, and all of them will give you different sensations, so if you think about getting one, you should always consult it with your partner. Then you can both decide which one will suit you the best and try it in bed. Toys like dildos can be used in many different situations when compared to, for example, cock rings, so make sure that you know how to use them before purchasing.

The most popular toy by far is a regular vibrator. It allows you to stimulate the clitoris and make her moan from pleasure. Just hold the vibrator and press gently. Then, start moving it from one position to another and regulate the pressure. You don't want to do it too hard, as the clitoris is really sensitive. Ask your partner about the speed she wants you to use and enjoy the show!

Lube Up

It's totally normal that sometimes you will need additional moisture to keep things up. No matter how hot and steamy things are, our body reacts in different ways. With lubes, you can penetrate your partner deeper and faster, so she will be more likely to come. In fact, some studies show that the more lubricant you use, the more enjoyable for women the sex will be. It can also help for lasting longer in bed. Men who use extra lube on their condoms can perform much longer than men who don't do it.

Don’t Forget About Her Butt

One of the major mistakes people make when having sex is forgetting about other erogenous zones. The butt is very sensitive and can be used in many ways besides butt play. Buttocks are just packed with nerve endings, so squeezing, kissing, and biting may prove invaluable in helping your partner's climax. It would be best if you had a talk with your partner about what she likes. Some of them will be amazed by gentle kissing, and others will need a good spank to become a good girl.

Change Positions

You probably already have your favorite sex position, but remember that you are not the only person involved. Your partner may have slightly different needs and feelings, so ask what she likes beforehand.

According to some sexologists, a woman on top is the best position to maximize clitoral stimulation. Especially when she touches herself while riding you, it can prove to be the fastest way for her to come. However, if you want to go for deeper penetration, you can try making her legs go up in the air. This way, you can go much deeper and promote a cervical orgasm.

Indulge Fantasies

Last but not least, ask her about her fantasies. Everyone has some. Fantasies can increase arousal during sex and make her come faster than you would ever expect. A mental arousal is a powerful tool that can make her come even without additional physical help. You can go for long-lasting foreplay or the opposite. Maybe she would like to try something more extreme?

If you decide on trying BDSM or other extreme activities, you should never forget about establishing some basic rules. Come up with a word that wouldn't usually be spoken when having sex (many people use the word yellow or red) to ensure no one will have any regrets. Otherwise, just have fun!

The Bottom Line

Orgasms are great, and everyone likes to have them, but don't let it be the only thing you pay attention to. When we overemphasize orgasms, we put too much pressure on ourselves and our partners, and as a result, we can sabotage the whole thing. Rather than making it the main goal, try to relax and focus on pleasure. Don't give up when she isn't able to climax. Most of the time, she will still be pleased and satisfied.

In a loving relationship, the partner's job is to create a safe environment when everyone can just relax and be themselves. For most women, setting this kind of mood will be much more effective than anything you can do physically.

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