It might be comfortable to follow a routine in bed, but is it going to be satisfying forever? Likely not!
"Different folks with different strokes."
The biggest problem with our society is its arbitrary labeling of what's Right and Wrong. The good news is: in bed, Everything is right (as long as both the partners consent).
Believe that if it makes you and your partner happy then it IS what is right for you!
It's good to explore your body in bed, and figure out exactly what works and what doesn't. The best way to do this is to test your boundaries. Really open up your mind, allow yourself to feel pleasure and discomfort, and then decide. Don't depend on the experiences of others, or societal norms, to decide for you what you would like.
Not everyone has the same sexual preferences. And that's okay!
We all have different jobs, hobbies, values, and beliefs, and we accept these differences. But the moment it's about sex, we expect people's desires to be standard. Isn't this hypocritical?
We're all unique, with our own minds, our own bodies, and our own pleasure centers. If you have a sexual experience with someone whose desires don't match yours, just say it's not your thing. If they can't reach a fair compromise with you, walk away! But if it's not too far from something you once thought you might be into, give it a try. Who knows, you might like it.
In the end of the day, it's important to remember that while it's good to be firm about your boundaries, it's also boring to live within them forever. At your (relative) comfort, attempting to go beyond can, at times, be the best discovery ever, and at worst, make for a good story to laugh about with your friends. But even if you don't, you have no reason to poke fun at others' desires. They're just different, not wrong.
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