Why Don't I Like to be Naked During Sex?

Author :- Joanna Anagnostou June 10, 2020, 9:50 a.m.
Why Don't I Like to be Naked During Sex?

The imagery of sex usually shows people taking off their clothes and having sex completely naked. However, being naked with a sexual partner can be an intimidating experience. There are a lot of reasons a person might not like being naked during sex, and some of those reasons can link back to body image and self-confidence. Some people don’t feel comfortable being naked during sex. It might be a one-time thing where our self-esteem is low, and we are worried about what someone thinks about our bodies.

It also could be that we don’t want to be naked every time we have sex.
Nudity can be scary. It can also require a certain level of trust between partners and having your body on display can be a vulnerable experience. And there is a possibility that you might not be ready for the first time you are intimate with someone. We are often the harshest critics of our own bodies, finding certain aspects of our looks that we deem unattractive or those parts which do not fall into the perfect category which we have decided for ourselves. These negative thoughts can be quite consuming and effect one’s confidence. We all want to look our best during sex because we want our partners to be attracted to us and think we are sexy.

There is also a lingering fear of rejection. Even after they have shown interest in you, you can convince yourself that once a partner sees you naked, they will find something that will make them not attracted to you anymore. It’s normal to feel these insecurities, everyone does. Feeling self-conscious is common, particularly when you feel as if you are putting your entire body of display.

Society can make us feel like we need to be ashamed of body parts that don’t look like how we see on screens and in advertising.

This might make us want to cover up or hide, especially in a situation like sex when we probably feel the most vulnerable. An important thing to remember is that you don’t have to be naked during sex. Being naked is not a necessity during sex. You should feel comfortable during sex, to make it a pleasurable experience for yourself and for your partner. How you choose to present yourself is always your choice and during sex, it is the same. So, if you feel more comfortable keeping a top, bra, or anything else on, then keep it on. It’s all personal preference.

Being naked is not a necessity during sex

People might assume that being naked during sex is more intimate, but intimacy can be created in other ways. This can be communicating in new, different and more meaningful ways with a partner. If the concern is with how you look, your partner is not critiquing your body the way that you are. They are happy to be there and want to be there with you.
Keeping self-confidence and criticism in mind, if you don’t like to be naked during sex because of your self-esteem, you might want to focus on your relationship with your body. Having a positive relationship with your body can make you feel more comfortable during sex, but also feel happier in your skin. It’s a hard thing to navigate feelings of self-love, but the culture around body image is changing for the better.

Body positivity challenges traditional beauty standards and encourages a healthier mindset of viewing one’s body.

Body Positivity is a relatively new social movement, in which people are encouraged to view their body and other bodies positively regardless of what they look like. This movement challenges traditional beauty standards and encourages a healthier mindset of viewing one’s body. You should be embracing your scars, stretch marks and the shape of your body, not wanting to hide them. It is your body and you should be proud of it.

If you want to be more body-positive in the bedroom, here are some things to keep in mind before you have sex.

  • Wear things that make you feel confident and feel good about yourself.
  • The better you feel about yourself, the more comfortable you will feel during sex.
  • If you associate these more positive feelings around sex, you can explore new and different ways you feel confident in these situations, possibly with less clothing on.
  • Self-care. Take care of yourself and make sure you are taking time to relax.
  • You want to develop a better relationship with your body, treat it well and keep it healthy.
  • Doing things that make you feel good whether it is during sex or not. Try out activities where you can focus less on what your body looks like, and more about what makes your body feel good.
  • Try not speaking about your body in a negative manner. Try and tell yourself only things you love about yourself, extending past your looks but also to your personality, passions and achievements.
  • Speaking about yourself in a kinder way can help you develop positive thoughts about your body.

The journey to loving the skin you are in can be a long and difficult one, but it is the most important relationship you can have. Work on loving the body you have been given and know that everyone can feel insecure about their looks too. Feeling confident in your body enough to be naked during sex can make it a more intimate and liberating experience, and that self-love can make you feel better than sex ever could.