It can be easy to lose ourselves in the Valentine’s celebrations of romantic, sexual, and even Galetine relationships. While it can be exciting to plan date nights and time with friends, are you planning enough alone time with just yourself?
Whether you’ve got a special somebody, multiple somebodies, or are flying solo, building intimacy with yourself can be just what the soul ordered. Check out the quick tips below for some ideas :)
Despite the ever moving maze and to-do list that is my mind, I really enjoy pausing to appreciate the many beautiful and sensory moments that make up my day. This might include stopping to listen to the lone violinist practicing their art solo, in the rain, without an audience in sight. Or it may look like me marveling at the colors nature produces in the autumn and not wanting to miss it because the next day’s palette may be completely different. It could even include noticing how my hair curls on a specific day and playing with the smooth hoops that wrap my finger in browns and gold.
Whatever it may be that creates opportunities to just breathe and admire, take it.
Basically, notice and make time for what brings you joy or peace and savor it. Knowing your own positive triggers is useful when life doesn’t feel too sunny and you need reminders of what you love.
It can feel scary to be left alone with our own minds or to be in tune with our own bodies. Especially if we get lost in being part of a we and in being in tune with the minds and bodies of others. What are some ways to getting back to you?
Folks often say treat others how you want to be treated but the problem is that we are often nicer to others than we are to ourselves. What are ways to treat ourselves better?
There is so much you can do with you - don’t feel limited by this list. Just remember that whatever you are doing, that you deserve the love and attention you show to others, too!
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