Tickle.Life welcomes Dr. Lee Phillips as its TweetChat guest to talk about shame and sexuality. Being a kink and poly aware therapist and a Certified Sex Therapist where he treats chronic illness and sexual dysfunction, Dr. Lee Phillips has been in private practice for more than a decade, working with individuals and couples on sexuality after chronic illness.
He lectures on topics including sexuality, chronic pain, preventative services, anxiety and stress management, caregiving stress, depression in the elderly, mindfulness and cognitive strategies for chronic pain, reclaiming sexuality for couples with chronic illness, ethical decision-making, the assessment of mental disorders, and exploring sexual communication, pleasure, and freedom for gender minorities with chronic illness, pain, and other disabilities. He is currently writing his first book, Sex & Love When You Are Sick. Besides, Dr. Phillips is an adjunct professor in the Master of Social Work Program with the School of Social Work at Western New Mexico University.
A1 Hello my name is Dr. Lee Phillips. I am a licensed psychotherapist and a certified sex therapist. I am a writer and professor. I specialize in sexuality and chronic illness #LetsTickle
A2 Shame shows up all the time. I call it the shame monster! When someone receives a diagnosis of a chronic illness. They often feel they are broken, and they will never have the life they once lived. We have to realize there is a new normal and there is hope. You can still be a sexual person. We all deserve pleasure! #LetsTickle #LetsTickle
A3 It is critical to talk about it and therapy can help! We have to realize that when so many changes in a person’s life due to illness and disability, sex can be a powerful source of intimacy. #LetsTickle
A4 Sex at its heart is about sexual communication. When one can feel safe, their vulnerability can lead to empowerment! They can then address their sexual likes and dislikes. #LetsTickle People then start to look at it as a sexual adventure in the new normal. They do not have to worry about performance-based sex. It’s all about pleasure #LetsTickle
A5 It is recommended they take a gentle approach, and they can start to get curious about each other. Once they feel safe and heard, they can get curious about their partner and get creative with their sex. #LetsTickle It is critical to have regular check-ins. This is an intimacy builder! #LetsTickle
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