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Sexual Arousal: All You Need to Know

Tickle.Life Editorial Team  |  Jul 28

Sexual Arousal: All You Need to Know

Our body undergoes various changes when it gets turned on. These changes can be emotional as well as physical. This feeling of being turned on is arousal, and it can be sexual arousal too.

You can get aroused either with a partner or by yourself. Fantasizing, reading, or watching erotic materials can also help in acquiring arousal.

Body Response to Arousal

When you get aroused, you may or may not have any physical reactions. However, some changes include-:

  • Rise in blood pressure
  • Increase in Heartbeat and pulse rate
  • The blood vessels, especially those in the genitals, expand
  • Labia and clitoris get swollen 
  • Erection of Penis
  • Lubrication of vagina

Arousal across Genders

There are similarities as well as differences in bodily reactions to sexual arousal across different genders.

Arousal is different for men and women. Men have a penis while women have a clitoris. But, they both get erect. Since both of them come from the same fetal origin, the clitoris gets erected just like the penis. There are a lot of cross-over similarities. For example, the blood rushing to your genital areas, your heart rate going up, and you feel flushed. All of these are common among genders, but what happens after that is according to the genitals you have.

Sam McAllery, Sex coach for Men said to Tickle.Life

What are Erogenous Zones?

Erogenous zones are the parts of the body that help you to get sexually aroused. These body parts have lots of nerve endings, which make you feel excited when they are touched.

Most people get aroused when they touch around their genital area. However, erogenous zones vary from person to person. Vulva, clitoris, labia, anus, breasts, penis, and scrotum are some examples of erogenous zones.

Desire and Arousal

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Desire and arousal are not the same. Sam added, "For example, if a woman is wet, it means her body is aroused, but that does not mean that her mind is turned on as well. It does not show that she wants to go through whatever is happening. It's just the body responding to sexually relevant stimuli. Some women can be a bit dry down there while foreplay but they might be turned on. This is non-concordance. Being aroused doesn't mean you are sexually turned on."

Sexual Arousal Disorder

The body undergoes several changes when a person with the clitoris gets sexually aroused. Some of the physical changes involve swelling of genitals and vaginal lubrication.

Along with physical, they experience mental and emotional changes as well. But, for some people, the body or mind does not respond to the stimuli. The desire might be present, but the sexual arousal doesn't happen as expected.

Reasons for Sexual Arousal Disorder

There are numerous reasons that can lead to arousal disorder. Here are some of them.

  • Psychological disorders like stress, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and anxiety
  • Intake of drugs
  • Relationship Issues
  • Insufficient sexual stimulation
  • The improper setting for sexual activity
  • Medical conditions like various nerve and heart problems

Possible Ways to Treat Sexual Arousal Disorder

Even though different conditions can lead to sexual arousal disorder, there are ways by which you can treat them. They range from using sex toys to therapy. Here are some of them that could help you and your partner in overcoming this situation.

  • Using sex toys such as a vibrator
  • Watching erotic videos with your partner
  • Focussing more on foreplay and concentrating more on touch and stimulation
  • Usage of lubricants
  • Communication between partners can help to build trust and intimacy 
  • Professional help such as visiting a doctor to know the exact reason 
  • Therapy

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