Sexpert’s Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex
August is Anal Sex Month… incidentally it is also International Peach Month—coincidence?
I don’t think so!
To celebrate Anal Sex Month, Sexpert.com has put together the most comprehensive information and resources: Sexpert’s Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex. We hope to probe into the depths of this once taboo topic.
By giving you a brief history of anal sex, as well the in and outs of backdoor pleasure.
Including how to do it safely so you can become an expert at anal sensuality and orgasms!
Why? Because butt’s are sexy and anal sex is the new pink!
So, let’s get Peachy! I mean Cheeky!
Why is There an Anal Pleasure Month?
Back in 2004, sex toy shop Good Vibrations designated August as Anal Pleasure Month. Sexologist Carol Queen explains why it is important.
While anal pleasure is widely enjoyed, it is still considered taboo, so access to clear and accurate information about it is sadly limited. Good Vibrations declared August to be Anal Pleasure month as a way to illuminate the subject.
To make information available to interested adults.
Anal Sex as Taboo
Back door play is becoming increasingly popular in today’s culture, and lots of adults of all ages, genders. Also sexual identities and orientations are adding butt-love to their sexual repertoire.
Butt… Anal sex was once considered very taboo and was forbidden and often illegal in many parts of the world. Known as sodomy (also called buggery) the term sodomy. Comes from the biblical story of Sodom and Gomorrah which was generally regarded as anal sex.
However, sodomy may also refer to oral sex, homosexuality and bestiality.
What is Sodomy?
Sodomy was seen as unnatural and dirty, and served to criminalize any type of sex that was not procreative. Especially targeting gay men and homosexuality. In some countries, homosexuality or gay sex is still punishable by death.
In Canada, the act of anal intercourse is an “indictable offense” with a maximum ten-year penalty of imprisonment for people under 18 years of age. “Exceptions are made in the law for heterosexual married couples. And for any two people over the age of 18 who both consent to the act.”
Sodomy laws in the United States not been updated since the 1600s and 13 states still officially ban sodomy including anal and oral sex. Even though this law was legally struck down by the Supreme Court in 2003.
Where? It's still illegal..
Anal sex is technically still illegal in Alabama, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Louisiana, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi.
North Carolina, Oklahoma and South Carolina regardless gender or sexual orientation. In Kansas, Kentucky, and Texas, the law applies to same-sex relations only.
Besides being illegal, many people once thought of anal sex (and still do) as dirty, smelly, unclean and unhealthy.
Although anal sex is becoming much more popular in modern culture. It is still stigmatized to some degree and there are still a lot of myth’s surrounding anal sex.
In fact, just recently (July 2019) one Orthodox Christian Bishop purported that “Gay people exist because pregnant women have anal sex.”
Every Body Has a Butt
Butt… Anuses are the ultimate neutralizer. The anatomical make-up of an anus is much more similar in men, women.
Including trans, gays, lesbians and bisexuals than their primary and secondary sex organs. The anus does not have a designation, gender or sexual preference.
The campaign seeks to educate the public about this “long-stigmatized part of sex” by featuring butt videos from a wide. And inclusive group of people in order to “eradicate harmful stigmas. Also taboos surrounding anal play for a safer, more pleasurable world.”
This message is more about the right to have anal pleasure.
It is about sexual pleasure and preference being inclusive to all genders and sexual orientations.
History of Anal Sex
Anal sex was not always seen as a taboo. Depending on the time in history and the culture, it has been tolerated. Accepted and in some cases expected. It “was sometimes used as an act of dominance over a conquered enemy. To exert superiority over women.”
In some ancient cultures it was actually quite common and even celebrated.
In ancient Sumerian culture, anal sex was practiced by Entu priestesses (High Priestesses who engaged in ritual intercourse) as a method of birth control.
They were not allowed to have children and the priests who worshiped the goddess Inanna were also known for homosexual anal intercourse.
Anal sex in ancient Greek was common and married men often had sex with adolescent boys between the ages of 12 and 15.
Where “pedagogic pederasty was an essential element in the education of male youths”. Greek prostitutes (hetaerae) often engaged in heterosexual anal sex to prevent pregnancy.
The terms “Greek Love” and “doing it the Greek way” are euphemisms for anal sex.
While the Romans considered anal sex as an act that was specifically “Greek”, they still enjoyed partaking in this “immodest” and “unmanly” activity. A male citizen could be condemned for being the bottom.
Or receptive partner of anal sex, but could take the active (Top) role with a young male slave or a woman. Women could also perform anal sex on other women if they “possessed an exceptionally large clitoris or a dildo.”
During the Shunga Dynasty in Japan, ancient art depicts anal sex between men, as well as male-to-female anal intercourse.
In ancient Peru, the Moche engaged in heterosexual anal sex more than any other form of sex. And anal sex between two men was also common.
Anal sex has also been associated with mystical significance. For example, in some cultures, men would wear butt plugs during meditation! Or anally insert finger during certain rituals.
A berdache (male assuming a female role) was often thought to have magic powers, and, in China, husbands penetrated their wives from behind to steal their “essence of yin.”
How Common is Anal Sex Today and Who Is Having It?
Anal sex has historically been associated with gay men.
But research shows that, contrary to popular belief, anal sex is the least common sexual behavior (approximately 20% do it) reported by gay men.
Anal sex is defined as a “sexual behavior” and is enjoyed by all genders and sexual orientations. Regardless of how they identify and the sexual activities they partake in.
Modern findings suggest that approximately 1/3 or more of the population have engaged in anal sex at least once during their lifetime. Which is a fairly large number for an activity that is considered so taboo.
That number is probably even a lot higher, (it is estimated that 47% of heterosexual men and 68% of women have tried anal sex).
As not everyone is completely forthcoming about their sexual activities.
In modern society,
anal sex was first formerly studied by Alfred Kinsey between the years 1938-63. He discovered that:
Among non-married adults, 9 percent of males and 28 percent of females had engaged in anal sex at least once. Among married subjects, the numbers were much lower—around 11 percent for both genders.
By 1974, anal sex was in the rise, when Playboy magazine published a huge survey of over 2000 subjects which found up to 25% of the respondents.
Acknowledged having anal sex at some point during their lives.
Later, in 1990, the Kinsey Institute published further research results which revealed that 27% of male and 24% of female college students had tried anal sex at least once.
Just a few years later in 1994, the University of Chicago found that 1 in 10 heterosexual couples engaged in anal sex.
By 2002, those numbers increased to 34% of men and 30% of women aged 15 to 44 engaging in anal sex at least once.
More recent studies (2010) from the “National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior” suggest that 36% of women and 40% of men (16-59 years old) have participated in penetrative anal sex during their lifetime.
With at least 15% of heterosexual men being receivers of this intimate act.
Current studies (2015) report that approximately 36.3% of women have had heterosexual anal insertion in their lifetime.”
At least 13% of married couple report having anal on a regular basis with a frequency of at least once a month.
And 37% of adults have practiced oral-anal pleasure (rimming or anilingus: kissing, licking, sucking and insertion of the tongue in the anus).
Do You Take It In the Ass?
At least 30% of adults are doing it. What about you?
Just because anal sex is trendy right now, doesn’t mean you have to try it if you don’t want to.
You should never feel pressured to do it (or any other sex act for that matter) against your will or better judgement. Only you know what is best for your own body.
It is your right to stand up for your own sexual sovereignty (the right to decide who and how you have sex), set boundaries and say “NO”.
Butt… If you have never engaged in “butt hole surfing” and are curious about it.
Read on as we have lots of tips on how to explore this sensual area of the body for the first time and why people love it.
Why Do People Enjoy Anal Sex?
You may be wondering why people engage in anal sex in the first place. The obvious reason is pleasure.
The pleasure derived from anal sex can be both physical and psychological.
Psychological pleasure may result from the dominant or submissive state of mind that the participants feel during anal sex.
Anal sex can be an act of domination, with one partner overpowering or dominating the other. Add a bit of hair pulling, naughty spanking, and some dirty words and you got a pretty hot BDSM scene.
There is also the visual pleasure one get’s from seeing a naked butt. Watching it wink its little eye at you.
Smacking the round mounds of flesh and watching them jiggle like Jello.
What’s not to love?
Anal sex can be an alternative to the regular sex act. Some people love it, even preferring anal sex over vaginal intercourse. Some women find vaginal sex to be extremely uncomfortable or even painful.
Anal sex gives them an alternative to vaginal sex. Allowing them to be pleasured and to also please their partners. Anal sex is also sometimes used as an alternative to vaginal sex to avoid pregnancy or during menstruation.
Anal expert, Tristan Taormino notes that the “anus, anal canal, and rectum are wonderfully erogenous zones. Rich in nerve endings and super-sensitive to stimulation and penetration.
At the right angle, many women find that you can indirectly stimulate the G-spot through anal penetration.”
Stimulation of the anal nerves can result in orgasm for many people. Whether indirectly by the arousal of the prostate in men and the G-spot in women. Or via the pudendal nerve.
This nerve is the main nerve that runs through the perineum, around the anus and controls the motor function of “the external anal sphincter.”
Stimulation of the pudendal and perineal nerves can indirectly arouse the internal clitoral and G-spot in women, resulting in a combined orgasm.
The anus has two sphincters, the inner and outer. We have voluntary control of the outer sphincter, and this area (the outer two-thirds of the anal canal) is more sensitive to touch.
While the inner third is more sensitive to pressure.
What about Men?
Men can enjoy direct stimulation of the prostate gland via anal stimulation, through penetration of the anus. Can also indirectly by pressing up on the perineum.
“Prostate stimulation can produce a deeper orgasm, sometimes described by men as more widespread and intense. Longer-lasting, and allowing for greater feelings of ecstasy than orgasm elicited by penile stimulation only.”
Women often will enjoy anal sex with combined stimulation of the clitoris, or the G-spot, or both. Triple stimulation (clitoris, G-spot and anus simultaneously) can result in a Trigasm. [link to trigasm article]
All the Ways to Anally Please
Anal pleasure is not the only form of anal “sex.” Penetration of the anus is only one way to please the anus. Anal sex is like an item on a very large menu of sexual appetizers, main courses and desserts. Just as you do not have to order everything on the menu, you can try it all if you like.
Many people acquire anal pleasure through various activities including:
Any of these activities could be a form of foreplay to warm up to the big (anal) event.
Or, they could be something that you can derive pleasure from, in and of itself.
Like any other type of sex, variety and experimentation is key to finding what you like, increasing your pleasure and obtaining orgasms.
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