"Is it wrong to want sex when you're on your period?"
Well, the shorter answer is: No.
Let me start by giving you a short research update in the wondrous, myth-busting field of Biology!
If you still think period sex is bad or wrong, you're probably engaging in superstitious thinking. Sam Harris explains this kind of thought with a great example: What if you were given access to a shirt that was worn by Jeffrey Dahmer? You might not want to wear it, but why? It was definitely washed at least a hundred times. But you still recoil at the idea of this. Depending on how disgusted you are by period sex, your feelings can be likened with other items, perhaps items that wouldn't even have his DNA, like his television, or something in the middle, like a watch. Whatever item you pick, your disgust toward it is no more justifiable than your disgust towards period sex. However, a little careful introspection may change your feelings towards it. For example, what if the item was a beautiful chandelier? What if the partner you were having period sex with was the one you've loved more intensely than ever before?
Some thought can definitely blue these superstitiously created feelings, and my hope is that you engage in a dialogue that promotes this inquiry. However, if despite all this, you cannot change how you feel, you can communicate that to your partner in a diplomatic manner: Instead of saying period sex is disgusting, say you have given it thought, but simply cannot rid yourself of your reaction to the idea, so you would rather not engage in the act until you feel ready.
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