Ever felt there was something ‘off’ after sex with your significant other? A niggling feeling that just doesn’t go away? We’ve all been there at some point or the other. Do you feel like your partner is faking orgasms?
But how would we know? This is what, as a man, I will attempt to figure out.
Guys, given the frequency of faking, if you need to ask, chances are she didn’t come. Especially if you make love while you are drunk, rush into it or don’t provide clitoris-tingling foreplay. Ladies do love foreplay.
Most orgasms are actually pretty hard to miss. Think about your own and you will be closer to identifying a woman’s. Most of it begins with quicker breathing, often accompanied by gasps or moans followed by several seconds of rapid, involuntary contractions of the muscles around the vulva and anus, usually with a jerky movement of the hips and often the whole body. Orgasms conclude with release into relaxation and dreamy contentment. If you get her to orgasm orally, your lips and tongue are likely to feel her vaginal muscles contract.
And please, ignore porn. Remember those women are acting too. The only time they climax is in privacy with their significant other. Everything you see on screen is exaggerated to the highest level one can imagine. Porn has very little of what actually makes a woman climax.
Guys, if we haven’t got this by now, we’re in trouble. But…better late than never right?
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