Sex is not embarrassing. Your fantasies are not shocking. They are normal and healthy to be explored. Suppressing these can become frustrating and have one feel confined to certain norms dictated by society. Sex should be what we want it to be for ourselves, provided we have a consenting partner that we share open communication with. Fantasies are not necessarily what is acted out, but it is created in our mind. Fantasies can be discussed with your partner and acted out on agreement between each other.
Surely, with this type of benefit, who would not want to indulge? The reality is that there are different reasons that some people do not engage in sex. If this is the situation with you or your partner, make sure you talk about their reasons for not engaging in sexual activity. There could be an underlying problem or medical issue that can be addressed by reaching out for the appropriate help. After all, sex is the glue that keeps relationships together.
If you are unsure if you satisfy your partner, there is no better way than to ask them and do not assume. Communication is key, and without verbalizing what you want, your partner cannot fulfill your wishes, and the same applies to them. There are no rules that apply where sex is concerned. You and your partner make these rules as you go along your journey together to make the entire experience mutually pleasurable considering each other’s boundaries. Ultimately, each person is in control of their pleasure and orgasms.
Create an understanding between your partner and yourself that you can communicate with ease about any fetishes, sexual interests that would like to be explored, i.e., BDSM, swinging, a threesome, or simply a different position. Of course, curiosity is sparked when one reads or hears about other’s adventures in these areas. The safe option is to inform yourself, discuss these with your partner and proceed on an agreement. Exploring options together with open, clear communication builds a stronger bond between the couple.
As humans, we evolve in many areas of our existence, and so should we in our sex lives by liberating ourselves and creating the sparks we want to experience with our partners. The intent and attitude override size, technique, and all else that we falsely place as important factors to enjoying sex. Misinformation and norms created by society are what construct the problems people deal with in relationships. Change that for yourself if you have fallen into the trap.
Our overall well-being can be changed positively by having a happy, healthy, and fulfilling relationship. It is never too late; the power is within us to re-invent our sexual and sensual being.
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