When you go on a first date with someone, there’s a lot of pressure to get things right. After all, if things don’t go well, there’s little chance that a second date will ever happen.
There’s even more pressure for those who aren’t particularly experienced with dating because they don’t know the dos and don’t of going out with someone.
If you fit into that category and need some help making your dates go smoothly, you might want to try out these tactics.
A surefire way to put a lot of women off you instantly is to use cheesy pick-up lines on them. Any man who thinks he can win his date over with sleazy remarks and poor humor isn’t going to have much luck making it to a second date.
What most women really want is to meet someone who engages them in conversation. That might be a little daunting for you if you’re inexperienced with all this. Luckily, these 36 questions are here to get the ball rolling.
Designed by a psychology professor, the questions have shown effectiveness at making strangers feel a greater closeness to one another. Obviously, that’s ideal if you’re looking to impress on a first date, so it’s definitely worth bringing up some of these in conversation. Plus, with so many questions to choose from, you don’t have to worry about thinking of topics to talk about if you’re nervous.
For a date to go smoothly, you need to be as comfortable as possible. That might seem difficult given that the situation of being with a woman could make you quite anxious. However, there are elements of the date you can control to counteract that.
For instance, the setting. Propose going somewhere that’s familiar so the surroundings put you more at ease. Your home could work for this, although don’t be surprised if a woman doesn’t want to be alone in a stranger’s house on the first date. Alternatively, you could go to your favorite restaurant or enjoy a walk in one of your favorite nature spots. Wherever it is you feel most comfortable, try to incorporate that into your date to feel more at ease.
Practice makes perfect. If you’re worried that your inexperience will get the better of you on a real date, then why not do some test runs. That way, you can hopefully build up some confidence and get to grips with what a date involves.
If you’re not sure where to look for dating practice, you might want to consider hiring an escort who matches your preferences and will be happy to spend an evening with you. And you'll have the advantage of knowing that it doesn’t matter how good or bad the date goes.
When something embarrassing happens on a first date, most people want the ground to open up and swallow them. It can be horrific to make a fool of yourself in front of someone you’re trying to impress. However, it’s important to remember that nobody’s perfect.
While you might yearn for everything to go right, silly mistakes happen all the time. How you react to them is what truly matters and can actually make or break a date.
If something goes wrong, do your best to recover and make your partner feel more at ease. Embrace the awkwardness and show that you’re not someone who can be defeated by such a minor problem. If you don’t, you’re just going to spend the rest of the date feeling humiliated, which will almost definitely ruin your chances of seeing that person again.
To some people, this strategy might seem counterintuitive because they believe being themselves is the reason they’re so inexperienced with dating. However, no good ever comes from trying to be another person on a first date. Sure, you may improve your chances of a second date if you paint an unrealistic picture of yourself, but those lies have to come out eventually.
The best thing you can do on a date is truthful about yourself and let the other person decide if you’re right for them or not. That doesn’t mean you need to show off all your bad qualities; you just need to give your partner a good idea of who you are.
According to experts, honesty is one of the traits that women look for in men. What’s more, their expectations aren’t as high as you might think. They’re not going to say no to a second date just because you’re not an A-List superstar with millions in the bank.
Until you get more experience, dating is always going to be a little daunting. With these strategies at your disposal, though, your next date may well be a big success.
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