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How to Choose a Strap-On Harness for Men

Revathi V Gopal  |  May 24

How to Choose a Strap-On Harness for Men

Strap-ons are seen as very, very hot but predominantly used by women on their partner. There is, however, a product category in the field designed for the needs of men. Male strap-ons are perfect for increasing penis size, dealing with performance anxiety, premature ejaculation and even erectile dysfunction.

There has even been research on how strap-ons can help prostate cancer patients have a healthy and satisfying sex life again.

The main question here is one – how do you choose the right strap-on harness for guys? Anatomical differences obviously make products tailored to the needs of men and women unique. This is why paying attention to a couple of essential characteristics can result in complete satisfaction with the brand new purchase.

What’s the Strap-On Meant to Do?

In the world of strap-on harnesses for guys, there are several options.

Harnesses with a hollow dildo are best suited to the needs of men dealing with ED and premature ejaculation. The flaccid penis goes inside the dildo and that probe is used to penetrate a partner. While this is one of the common product varieties, it’s not the only one.

Some male harnesses are created especially for particular sexual practices. Double penetration strap-on harnesses are one example. In that case, the strap on dildo for man is positioned above or below the penis to enable this kind of play.

You can also find harnesses with interchangeable probes and dildos. These are quite versatile and can be used by both men and women. Hence, if you’d like to change roles or do some brand new sexual exploration (without limitations), this is the type of product to pursue.

Once you’ve decided on the strap-on harness specifics, you can move on to the next step.

Sizing Considerations

Choosing the right size is very, very important, no matter what kind of strap-on harness you decide to buy.

If you choose a hollow strap-on, take a look at the dildo’s inner diameter, its length and girth. The first parameter is important to fit your penis comfortably inside the toy. The second and third measures matter as far as your partner’s pleasure is concerned.

Understand the fact that bigger isn’t always better in the world of dildos.

Strap-on harness toys for men are usually somewhat rigid (especially if they’re hollow). The aim of such materials is to help the dildo maintain its shape during penetration instead of collapsing. Hence, a rigid and large dildo can be quite uncomfortable, even painful for the recipient.

Another measure to check out is the length of the straps. Some strap-on harnesses have straps going around the waist. Others go around or under the buttocks. The manufacturer’s website will usually feature a size chart that lets you know which body measures you’ll need to take to make sure the fit is right.

Long enough harnesses ensure secure and comfortable fit. These should never be too tight because they’ll cause discomfort and some chaffing with continuous use.

Dildo Material

Speaking of rigidity and texture, we cannot underestimate the importance of selecting the right dildo material.

You cannot count on regulators to make sure that the sex toys you buy are safe. The industry is still fairly unregulated, regardless of the fact that the interest in such products is growing all the time. Hence, buyers have to do their own research and understand the differences between materials.

You should never ever go for dildos and other penetrative toys made of porous materials. Porous materials have micro holes in their surface, which makes them notoriously difficult to clean. Even if you scrub dildos thoroughly after each use, they could still harbor dust, dirt and bacteria.

Some porous materials to avoid include jelly, rubber and many kinds of thermoplastics. 

It’s also a good idea to stay away from softened kinds of plastic (like cyberskin) because these get treated with chemicals to achieve some pliability. As a result, there’s some risk of the toy releasing phthalates. Phthalates are endocrine disruptors that can lead to problems.

Medical-grade silicone, ABS plastic and TPR are some of the safe materials out there. Do look for such toys before exploring other options. If you fall in love with a strap-on harness that features a dildo made from a porous material, understand the fact that the toy will have to be used with a condom each time to optimize hygiene and safety.

Additional Features

Now that you’ve covered the basics, it’s time to have a bit of fun with additional features.

Today’s sex toy market gives you so many options that you may find it difficult to pick just one toy.

Some strap-on harnesses for men come with vibrating dildos. The vibrations will be felt by both the wearer and the recipient, increasing the pleasure. Vibrating dildos are especially amazing for people who have a more difficult time reaching an orgasm.

Very often, the harness will have a little pouch for the purpose of putting a bullet vibrator inside. This feature is very practical because it can be utilized to turn a simple dildo into a vibrating one.

If you’re looking for the ultimate realistic experience, you may want to go for an ejaculating strap-on.

As the name suggests, these harness toys for men can “ejaculate” a liquid of choice (most often, some form of lubricant will be utilized for the purpose). That function is very easy to trigger, usually through the integration of a bulb or a syringe in the design. In some instances, the dildo itself will have to be squeezed for the squirting action to occur.

Many couples find this realistic function very arousing. It can be an amazing turn-on during oral sex or as a form of a conclusive climax. When looking for such a toy, however, make sure that the squirting mechanism is easy to trigger and powerful enough. Otherwise, you may end up with some pretty disappointing and anti-climactic leakage.

Final Verdict

A male sexual dysfunction doesn’t have to be the end of your sex life. The same applies to intimacy that has become somewhat routine or disappointing for one or both partners involved.

The sex toy market offers a solution for just about every problem.

Don’t be afraid of exploring an opportunity like a strap-on harness for guys. It doesn’t make you less of a man. On the contrary/ the right kind of toy can restore your confidence and the joy of getting intimate with your partner. You’ll see the pleasure on their face once again, which will obviously make the purchase 100 percent worth it.

And if you’re not dealing with an issue, a male strap-on harness can be quite fun. It will add a new dimension to your sexual experience that will be fresh, very enjoyable and capable of revealing brand new facets of your sexuality.


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