Singlehood  Reworking Relationships 

How Do You Show Your Love?

Dr. Trina Read Mar 22 2020

How Do You Show Your Love?

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When we partner up with someone we think that love is all encompassing.

However, how a person expresses their love is unique...and sometimes confusing to the receiving partner.

For example, you may feel a person shows their love by the quality of gift they give to you, while your partner expresses their love by doing nice things for you--ultimately this leads to you feeling gypped and your partner feels unappreciated.

Go through this list to see which language of love you prefer. Find out more at Which one best describes you?

Words of Affirmation: Actions don’t always speak louder than words. Verbal compliments or words of appreciation are powerful communicators of love. You feel loved when your partner expresses appreciation for the small things you do.

Quality Time: means giving someone your undivided attention. Ask your partner for a list of five activities that he’d enjoy doing with you. Make plans to do one of them each month for the next five months.

Receiving Gifts: Some people appreciate the thought that goes into a personal gift. This love language isn't necessarily materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. The cost will matter little.
Keep a “gift idea” notebook. Every time you hear your spouse say, “I really like that,” write it down. Don’t wait for a special occasion.

Acts of Service: When someone goes out of their way to make things more pleasant or smooth for you.  This love language seek to please their partners by serving them; to express their love for them by doing things for them.

Does your spouse nag you about something constantly? Consider the nag as a tag! Your spouse is tagging this particular task as a really important thing to him or her.

Physical Touch: This encompasses all kinds of touch, from hugs to kisses to cuddling. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. With it, they feel secure in their partner’s love.

Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages discusses how each love language works and affects a relationship.

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