Mental Health 

Getting Sexy with MS

Dr. Lee Phillips Sep 13

Getting Sexy with MS

Multiple Sclerosis (MS) is a demyelinating disease to the central nervous system with the onset generally during adulthood.

The consequences of demyelination include cognitive, motor, and sensory dysfunction, depending on the area of the brain or spinal cord involved. Such dysfunction may result in a variety of alterations in sexual function in people with MS.

Sexual dysfunction in MS includes temporary or long-term disinterest in sex, inability to experience orgasm, and difficulty engaging in sexual intercourse because of the physical changes with MS (e.g., spasticity, fatigue, and muscle weakness).

Sexual dysfunction may also include erectile dysfunction, decreased vaginal lubrication, fatigue, depression, anxiety, decreased sensation in multiple areas of the body, tremor and cognitive changes.

Fatigue, one of the most common and most disabling symptoms of MS can lead to a decreased participation in sexual activity. People with MS may fear that the exertion of sexual activity may cause a progression of the disease. They may mistake the sedation experienced after climax to weakness, and so needlessly limit their sexual activity.

The healthy partner of the person with MS may fear that sexual activity will worsen the severity of MS and may avoid intimate physical contact.

Decreased desire and arousal is associated with the cerebral plaques and also with depression. Cognitive changes (apathy and confusion) may have a profound effect on the quality of life, including sexual functioning. Sexual dysfunction often occurs in combination with bowel and bladder incontinence. Those individuals may fear loss of bowel or bladder control during sexual activity. Therefore, sex may be avoided.

MS can interfere directly or indirectly with orgasm. In women and men, orgasm depends on nervous system pathways in the brain (the center of emotion and fantasy during masturbation or intercourse), and pathways in the sacral, thoracic, and cervical parts of the spinal cord. If these pathways are disrupted by plaques, sensation and orgasmic response can be diminished or absent.

In addition, orgasm can be inhibited by secondary (indirect physical) symptoms, such as sensory changes, cognitive problems, and other MS symptoms. Tertiary (psycho social or cultural) orgasmic dysfunction stems from anxiety, depression, and loss of sexual self-confidence or sexual self-esteem, each of which can inhibit orgasm.

Muscle spasticity which is common in all individuals with MS may be triggered during sexual activity. Spasticity is a condition in which certain muscles are continuously contracted. This contraction causes stiffness or tightness of the muscles and can interfere with normal movement, speech and gait. Spasticity is usually caused by damage to the portion of the brain or spinal cord that controls voluntary movement. Spasticity of the hip adductors may be severe enough to be barrier to sexual intercourse.

Nighttime spasticity, frequent nightly trips to the bathroom, or nighttime incontinence can lead couples to abandon sharing the same bed and even the same bedroom to allow the healthy partner a good night’s rest. MS can impair the emotional and sexual intimacy that is fostered from the couple’s sleeping together.

Certain strategies may minimize many of the difficulties experienced by cisgender men and women with MS. Here are my recommendations in reclaiming a sex life that works.

· When fatigue is a major complaint, individuals can plan sexual activity for morning when people with MS generally have more energy. It is perfectly fine to plan sex! It does not have to be spontaneous!

· Keeping the environment cool may also improve energy in people who are heat sensitive; however, cool temperatures may aggravate spasticity.

Because the spasms of hip adductors tends to cause the most problems, using side or rear entry may eliminate this barrier the couple wishes to have penetrative sex.

· Couples also may alternate forms of sexual activity, such as oral sex and mutual masturbation. Remember, sex does not have to be about penetration…it is only one form of sex!

· Bladder incontinence can be managed by emptying the bladder immediately before or after sexual activity.

· For individuals with bowel incontinence, sexual activity can be planned so that it precedes intestinal stimulants such as coffee and meals.

· Decreased vaginal lubrication can be treated with water-soluble lubricants, and dysesthesias may be relieved with medication for nerve pain.

Vaginal lubrication is controlled by multiple pathways in the brain and spinal cord, similar to the erectile response in men. Decreased vaginal lubrication can be addressed by using generous amounts of water-soluble lubricants, such as K-Y Jelly, Replens, or Astroglide.

It is not advisable to use petroleum based jellies (e.g., Vaseline ) for vaginal lubrication due to the greatly increased risk of bacterial infection.

· Uncomfortable genital sensory disturbances, including burning, pain, or tingling, can sometimes be relieved with gabapentin (Neurontin ), carbamazepine (Tegretol ), phenytoin (Dilantin ) or divalproex (Depakote ) or by a tricyclic antidepressant such as amitriptyline (Elavil ). I consult with medical providers almost daily in my practice about the medications my clients are prescribed. These are common medications I see prescribed.

· Decreased genital sensation can sometimes be overcome by more vigorous stimulation, either manually, orally, or with the use of a vibrator and other sex toys.

Exploring alternative sexual touches, positions, and behaviors, while searching for those that are the most pleasurable, is often very helpful. Sexual activity is all about exploring and this can make it exciting.

· Masturbation with a partner observing or participating can provide important information about ways to enhance sexual interactions. Remember, sex is about pleasure, not perfomance.

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