Did you do a double-take when you read this title? Whaaat?!? The prostate is a men’s issue you thought?
Well, I have some news for you, people with vulvas have a prostate too!
Where is it you ask? Female prostatic tissue is embedded in the erectile tissue that surrounds the urethra. The prostatic tissue including secretory glands is sometimes clumped together to form what we call the G-spot. So yes, it’s involved in female ejaculation! This makes sense since the prostate surrounds the urethra in men also.
Sometimes, in women, the prostatic tissue is more evenly spread along with the urethral sponge and is not so easily felt as a discrete spot. This can be why some women have trouble finding the G spot because they are looking for something that is not in one spot.
The female prostatic tissue is stimulated by GENTLE rubbing or SLOW pressing, such as when you ‘ring’ a doorbell. Penetration can also work on this tissue if its slower and in a way that rubs along the urethral sponge nearer the top of the vagina, or closer to the front side of the body.
So for those of you looking to find the female prostate and involve it in the pleasure, did you catch the words GENTLE and SLOW? If you are a male-bodied person, and you imagine having your prostate stimulated through the anus, you’d probably want the option to have it slow and gentle too, so let’s give vaginas the same respect.
I wanted to bring the prostate gland to our awareness as it’s often kind of neglected until it causes problems for men later in life or becomes diseased. The prostate is not essential for life but it helps with reproduction by supplying semen which supports the sperm in a healthy environment in men. Semen includes substances like zinc, citrate, and fructose that give the sperm energy to reach the egg. The fluid also helps to keep the urinary tract clear of bacteria and other harmful substances.
So what role does prostatic fluid have in women? This is less well known but there have been some thoughts that it provides a similar role in helping with reproduction. If the woman gets ‘wet’ or the engorged prostatic tissue secretes female ejaculate, it can help the sperm to reach the egg and keep the pathway free of germs.
It definitely helps if all people are having orgasms and secreting lots of fluid!
There are actually many courses and workshops now that help educate women on how to find their G spot or the female prostate, and how to stimulate it. Ejaculation is quite often a learned skill that can be experienced with practice. One of my teachers, Deborah Sundahl regularly offers both online and in-person courses on the female prostate.
As a Somatic Sex Educator, I have explored my own prostate and discovered some of its secrets. I also can help both women and men be-friend their prostate gland and learn more about it. Regular massage is considered a wonderful way to keep this gland healthy throughout your life, whatever gender you are.
I am happy to provide resources, diagrams, conversation, and physical mapping and massage as part of working with me.
If you are interested in learning more, please reach out.
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