By Dr. Pavini Moray, founder of Wellcelium
Living in Northern California, the term “energy” gets bandied about with quite a degree of frequency. And in my field, that includes erotic energy. We talk about “erotic energy regulation” and “moving through your energetic blocks.” Now, admittedly, I’m pretty woo. But sometimes I feel challenged by what exactly I’m supposed to “do” when playing with energy. I feel it, I know it exists, but how to engage it in meaningful, and pragmatic ways?
Well, Neo-Tantra has claimed erotic energy as part of the branding. Personally, I find it really distasteful. But I’m not willing to let them have all the good stuff! I think that everyone can have access to the skills of erotic energy regulation without having to subscribe to a vague ‘sacred sexuality’ doctrine.
I work with erotic energy in different ways. Deepening my understanding (like writing this post) is one way; practicing and experimenting with things is another.
I work with erotic energy because I find that I don’t truly know the edges or limits of my own potential as an erotic being.
I am of a curious nature, and find that engaging energy in my sexual encounters provides deeply pleasurable and often transformative encounters.
Dictionary.com offers the following definitions:
Erotic: Pertaining to sexual desire
Energy: The capacity to do work, available power
Therefore, a working definition of “Erotic Energy” could be “The available power of sexual desire.” Of course, I want to add “pleasure” to this definition. Thus, here’s my definition:
“Erotic energy is a resource available to humans at all times, and can be understood as the pleasurable power of desire.”
I believe there are different skills involved in working with erotic energy. There are a set of foundational skills of embodiment. Then, there are skills of creating, sustaining, moving and sharing erotic energy. Many people have access to some of these skills, and can choose to develop others.
This list is about some of the energetic possibilities that we can access as humans. It is not exhaustive, and while many people can probably access some of these skills, most people probably cannot access all of them, all of the time. I know I can’t! So not to be disheartened if this list seems overwhelming; it’s just potentials!
Are there any skills listed above that you’re already practicing?
Which skills are you curious about exploring further by yourself or with a partner?
If you are intrigued by your own erotic potential, I invite you to try this. Masturbate to the edge of orgasm, and stop. And pay particular attention to how you feel and what you notice internally for the next hour. Then, masturbate again, and notice what happens.
Check out this interview with Wellcelium Teacher, Barbara Carrellas, author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century: The Value of Ecstasy: Interview with Barbara Carrellas
Originally published on wellcelium.org
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