Different Ways to Do Mutual Masturbation and its Benefits

Mutual masturbation is a way by which you can spice things up with your partner(s). Mutual masturbation means masturbating in each other's presence. It also deals with stimulating each other's genitals. 

Mutual masturbation is a great way to explore each other and build a closer connection. It’s also very exciting to see how much you know your partners body and how you can help them have an amazing release, and to learn some things about yourself that maybe you did not realize when doing solo masturbation. All in all it’s a great way to learn about yourself and your partner at the same time to build up your sexual connection.

Lulu Batista, in-house sex educator, Tickle.Life

If you are in a long-distance relationship or wish to take your intimate moments to the next level, this form of masturbation can be an excellent choice. However, remember that consent is essential while engaging in any form of sexual activity. Hence, it is applicable here as well.  

When you understand the ways to do mutual masturbation, you can have a better sex life with your partner. It will assist you in gaining awareness of what you and your partner want. Here, we will look into the different ways to obtain self-pleasure while engaging in mutual masturbation. We will also consider the benefits of taking part in this form of masturbation.

Firstly, let's have a look at the different ways to do mutual masturbation.

Initiation through Conversations

Having a conversation where you and your partner open up about mutual masturbation can be helpful. It can bring in safety and build honest communication on what you both like and dislike. 

Here, you can talk about your fears associated with touching yourself or how you feel about masturbating in front of your partner. 

While having these conversations for initiating mutual masturbation, ensure that you have this in a safe space. It has to be somewhere both you and your partner are comfortable talking openly. If you require a conversation starter, try it by watching ethical porn or participating in sex workshops. You can subscribe to our newsletter to find more on these workshops. Click here to subscribe.

Setting Up the Mood for Self-Pleasure

With the right mood and ambiance, mutual masturbation can be way more fun. You can have soft mood lights, light up vanilla or sandalwood scented candles, and even try out a sexy playlist(by the way, you can find one right here).

Besides, ensure that there is the accessibility of lubricants. In simple terms, you have to ensure that both of you are comfortable and relaxed. You can try this form of masturbation in different places and even have a sesh in the tub if that lights up the mood.

Bringing in Sex Toys to the Session

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You and your partner can deepen the intimate pleasure by bringing sex toys to your mutual masturbation sessions. Here, you can try out a variety of toys, such as anal plugs, rabbit toys, strokers, etc., 

If you are in a long-distance relationship, do try out app-controlled sex toys. When you use these toys, your partner can control them from anywhere. For phone sex sessions, trying out a suction cup dildo by mounting it on a chair can be a great choice. 

If you are masturbating together, it is best not to share the toys unless you use condoms. Besides, ensure that you clean the toys regularly after using them to enhance safety.

Give Ethical Porn or Eroticas a Shot

Watching ethical porn, reading erotic stories, or listening to erotic audio can also be excellent ways to spice things up. It can even be a fun activity for you and your partner. 

However, ensure that you pick something that both of you enjoy equally. It has to be a turn-on for both of you as well. You can even search for ethical porn that brings in mutual masturbation in them. You can also find great free porn for women that is designed to be more story based and contextual than usual porn.

Try Out Different Positions

Similar to penetrative sex, you can try out different positions while engaging in mutual masturbation. You can sit on a chair facing each other or lie side by side on the bed with your partner. 

Spreading your legs wide can be a bonus while you try out this technique for gaining pleasure. Besides, ensure that you are stimulating the erogenous zones as well. 

When it comes to video calls or phone sex, try to pick a position that makes you feel sexy. You can try standing, sitting, and even kneeling if it works for you.

Taking it Digital with Phone Sex

While you take it digital, make sure that you are comfortable with your partner and sure about it. Before you try this out, ensure that the lighting and angle are perfect. Here, you can bring dirty talks to steam up the session with your partner. 

Bringing your imagination and creativity into play can also be highly effective for phone sex. Sounds can also be an excellent way to let the intimate juices flow and build up the heat. Listening to your partner's breaths and moans can be a great ingredient to spice things up. It is one of the ways to do mutual masturbation.

Discuss Afterwards

After your heated session, why not have a discussion? 

However, try not to make it the time for feedback, which you can do another time. Here, you can talk about things you loved during the session, which will help maintain the afterglow. When you converse with things openly, you can build your intimate connection and make it deeper.

Now, let's have a look at the benefits of trying out mutual masturbation with your partner.

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From bringing in safety to building connections, mutual masturbation has a lot of benefits. As per Lulu Batista, in-house sex educator, "it can be exciting to see how much your partner likes to Cum for you." She also adds, "we(partners) can explore each other to build a closer connection" through mutual masturbation. 

Here are some of the benefits of taking part in mutual masturbation, which makes it a must-try.

Brings in Safety

Here, there is a low risk of infection¹ and no chances of getting pregnant. However, if you engage in mutual masturbation in real-time with your partner, ensure that you wash your hands after taking part in it.

Besides, it is helpful in case of any sexual trauma you might have, making it difficult to let others touch you. You can also overcome issues of performance anxiety. It is because while seeking self-pleasure, you don't have to worry about performing for your partner. Hence, it can be comforting, especially if you have undergone any sexual trauma² or issues.

Add Variety to Your Sex Life

With mutual masturbation, you can spice things up in your bedroom. Here, you can explore more than penetrative sex and enhance your sexual repertoire. 

By bringing in self-pleasure as a way to bring in better sex life, you can understand what makes your partner feel good. You can show your partner what you like and know about your partner's preferences as well. 

For instance, you might prefer light touches or intense ones. When you do mutual masturbation, both of you can understand what works best for you, which you can implement while having penetrative sex.

Building Bond with Mutual Masturbation

Since both you and your partner will be sharing an experience, it can be an excellent time for bonding. Here, you can even work on climaxing at the same time as well. 

While trying it out during phone or video calls, you can stay connected with your partner and be intimate even when you are far apart. 

Thus, when you do mutual masturbation, it can be the source for building a deeper bond and foundation in your relationship.

Act as a Middle Ground Between Sex and Solo Masturbation

When a couple doesn't feel like engaging in penetrative sex or have the opportunity to have sex, most of them think that they don't have any other option. Due to this, especially in long-distance relationships, couples tend to opt for masturbating privately. 

But, in reality, there is more to it as you and your partner discover pleasure with mutual masturbation. Here, you don't have to choose between having private time or spending time with a partner. 

Understanding Each Other's Vulnerabilities

Masturbation can be a personal activity that nobody has witnessed before for you. Hence, when you try it out with your partner in real-time or virtually, it is a way of opening up your vulnerabilities. It can enhance your familiarity, bonding, and connection with your partner. Other than that, it will also help in bursting shame and taking your intimate relationship to the next level.

References 

¹https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8207282/

²https://www.drwyattfisher.com/blogs/marriage-blog/mutual-masturbation