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Porn Influences What Happens In Your Bedroom!

Gaia Morrisette Mar 11 2020

Porn Influences What Happens In Your Bedroom!

Today I want to talk about how the porn industry creates and controls our social sexual norms! It even affects people that don't watch or believe in porngraphy! Crazy right? I know you might be saying NO Fu*Ken Way, Gaia! I promise, just keep reading and I will lay it all out!

Today I want to talk about how the porn industry creates and controls our social sexual norms! It even affects people that don't watch or believe in porngraphy! Crazy right? I know you might be saying NO Fu*Ken Way, Gaia! I promise, just keep reading and I will lay it all out!

I first started to notice that what happens in the porn industry affects the average person’s sex life when I was about 20 years old, back in 1994, with pubic hair.

Sidenote... When I was 14 years old in 1988, I saw my first porno movie called “The Golden Bone.” Ha ha ha, the silly names of porn. Back then, before the internet, it was on VHS and my best friend had it. He got it from his friend, who stole it from his DAD. You had to work really hard to see porn back then not like today…I know I sound old...lol.

Adventures of porn and pubic hair:

In North America in 70’s and 80’s pornography it was normal to see women/men with pubic hair and it was seen as very taboo if the pubic hair was shaved. In porn the more taboo the better - it sells more copies. So more and more porn was being made with shaved genitals. Within less than 10 years it became the social norm for people to shave their genitals. You started to see it in the gym locker rooms and girlfriends started talking about Brazilian waxes as the new sexual attraction norm. Pubic hair became seen as dirty, not clean or not sexy. Fast forward to 2020 and it is the norm in North America!!! All because of the Porn industry!

How do you KNOW Gaia?

I am a nudist, so I spend a lot of time with naked genitals and I am one of the few people that has pubic hair. I also work and see lots of client’s naked bodies and if someone has pubic hair they often apologize for not shaving.

Next example of how porn creates our social sexual norms:

Lets talk about Anal. Anal sex was considered a sin, a taboo and in some U.S. states it is still illegal. It was something only homosexuals did. So of course the porn industry was all over it. At first it was just in the hard core porn and then it started moving into regular average hetero porn and now it is the norm, no big deal, just like intercourse. Twenty years ago anal was not talked about openly and it was seen as kinky, wild and for kinky sex only. Now average people are wanting to know how to have anal play with their partner. It has become so the norm that when I ask average people what they wish they had in a basic sex education course that I was creating they added anal in the list with kissing, oral and intercourse. Again, porn made that a norm.

The next trend has been BDSM. Sooooo when you are wanting to be spanked or to spank someone just know it’s ok. It is becoming the new normal!

As you can see the porn industry is powerful and I support anything that pushes the social norms, especially around sex. However this power can be used for good or for unhealthy practices.

Some of the ways to make sure you move with porn in a good and healthy way are:

  • Being aware of what kind of porn you choose to explore. To dig into this deeper read my article ( add link Porn good or bad for you article)
  • Ask yourself why am I turned on by this? Is it because society says it is okay and the norm? Which by the way, 10 years earlier it was because of porn. Or is it because it is taboo?

It is never a good idea to let others decide what works for you! If you need any support on how to come to a place of self acceptance please visit me www.succulentliving.com.

Until next time, question why!

Gaia Morrissette - Holistic Sexual Wellness Specialist

www.succulentliving.com


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